BORN poor IS GOOD.... An Introduction

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Hmmmm.... My 1^st Blog... Ufff... Don’t know from where to start... It’s always very difficult to convert your thoughts in writing; in such a way thatreader should not get bored while reading.....

21^st April 2011 when one of my colleague told me to start writing my blog... Blog!!! Me!!! Shocked!!! Is it possible...? I thought for few seconds & replied yes I will do that but from this Diwali (2011)... “You should start writing your blog.” These words from her were sufficient to motivate me to start writing my blog.

It took 3 more days to me to decide the title of my blog & finally I have created my account in blogger.com on 24^th April. But now the question was when to post my 1^st blog? Is it Diwali? Nahhhh... Not at all possible, I couldn’t stop myself for 6 months? Then? Ohhhh something clicked in my mind... 28^th May 2011, 25^th Birthday of the person who has influenced me to start writing my blog. Don’t you think no date can be better than that & if I missed it then I am a biggest fool in this world....

“Congratulation Neha for your Silver Jubilee on this earth.... My 1^st blog is dedicated to you.... Happy Birth Day Dear... J Thanks for influencing me for this, first time I am doing something new which has been told by someone else. I am the person who never convinced easily. I do what I prefer to do.

“BORN poor IS GOOD...:)” This will be a chain of stories from my personal life, as suggested by the title, this will be a motivational journey for sure for all whom born in poor families & wanted to make their own ways against the wind... Best of Luck Guys... Remember this world has everything for you, especially for you... but you won’t get anything easily... Keep trying until you succeed. .. Never give up... Be straight forward for your objective... Never hide your limitations & Failure... Never be Happy for any Undue Advantage... Undue Advantage will make you weaken & can only give you sort term happiness & they kill your long term benefits.

If you born in rich family belong to rich society then it’s good, if you born in rich family belong to poor society then well & good. If you born poor in poor society, not a bad deal. But the worst part of life is when you born poor in the rich society, the struggle begins from the day one. When you born poor the first thing you have to fight for is the struggle for existence J but if you will enjoy this fight then world is open for you for fly high in the sky.

Currently I am working in one of the Fortune 500 Company with a handsome salary credits in the end of every month in my bank account. My annual salary is very close to 7 digit &  I think if I will keep continue working hard then I will touch the 7 digit figure soon. Now the question is that why I am sharing all this to you? Actually I want to start this with very positive node, so that you must be emotional but not sad whenever I will share bad phases of my life. Remember 3 idiots, when Sarman Joshi (one of the idiot) tried to commit suicide & was hospitalized, while watching that scene you must be emotional but not sad as you were already told early in the movie that he is alive, fit & fine, searching for Amir Khan (one of the missing idiot). JJJ

I am just 27 year old & writing this doesn’t mean that I have achieved everything in my life. I don’t think I have achieved even a 1% of my objectives till date. We are still living in the rented house. We don’t have our own house, but yes what we are today is much better than yesterday. The only reason I am writing this is that whatever we have achieved even till date was the matter of dream which we could never been achieved as one point of time. Even we were not allowed to have such dream by society. I am not joking, it’s true. People were never hesitating to laugh on our various unrealistic dreams, which are now reality.

According to me, god has sent me in this world for a special purpose. But for me it is very important that you should first complete your family responsibilities & then only go for any social work. I don’t think you will be a successful person if you have done something extraordinary social work for the society but the same time you have killed happiness of your family, remember your family member is also part of society and your prime responsibility is to fulfil their basic needs before you going for any social work. Currently I am focusing on my family responsibilities. I think by the age of 30, I will start doing something productive for the society. My dream project with the concept of “Profit Making Social Organization” may help me to make my family happy as well as allow me to work for some social cause simultaneously. Any ways the dream is dream until you succeed.

The story begins from 22^nd Sep... ohhh sorry... it begins from 20^th June 1983, the wedding day of my mummy papa. Yes this is the day, which did make sure that I would come in this world with such a hard working & caring parents. The reason behind why I have written only caring & hard working is that this is the only thing they did in their life, they have dedicated their full life for us (for me & my sister). I don’t think they have any personal interest other than make mine & mine sister’s future secure. 

Finally the day arrived, the day when I was going to meet God’s best gift to me & that was my parents, 22^nd September 1984 the day when I born in this world. Sorry again... I was born in “Mool Nakhatra” & as per rituals my father can’t see me for next 27 days. So I met mummy 1^st... J

Mummy!!! What to say about her!!! She is just brilliant!!! My mummy is very straight forward while talking & having very soft heart by nature.  Her talent of various art works like embroidery, painting, bandej, mehandi etc. are exceptionally well. She has trained various girls in Barghat. I will introduce Barghat later. Same talent has been inherited by my sister, my sister is also exceptionally well in all this. From the day one I don’t think my mummy has compromised on our living standards. She never compromised on our (me & my sister’s) various needs like quality of cloth, quality of food, quality of living style but for that she has compromised her own needs.

I still remember how my mummy was saving all the gift money from her parents during summer vacation, gift money of rakhi & bhai dooj from her brothers along with her own earnings from the various art classes taken by her & never spent for her. She used to save all the money & then spent for various needs of our family members. I can easily remember when she purchased Loona (Moter Cycle) worth Rs. 2000/- for papa ji early in the 90ies, Basic need crockery, my 1^st bicycle, our cloths, our 1^st black & white TV, Our 1^st Cooler & so on & so on.. She is actually the person who made the foundation of our family in our initial days. I am just giving strength to that foundation. Now it’s time to make sure that her efforts won’t waste. Last year for one of our family function we purchased few sarees for mummy worth Rs. 20000/- & the best part was she didn’t stop herself for doing the same as she usually doing for fulfils our needs... One of the best moments in my life J J J

She did keep continue her art classes even though she has been caught by “Asthma” until my father force fully instructed her to stop her classes due to her “Asthma” problem... She is just a hard worker never lived for herself... even though she has been suffered from lots of serious “Asthma Attacks.”

She is still working hard & now a day supporting my father for his business. But yes unlike me she is afraid of Risks, always stop our family member to take any risk as we have already seen worst days in our life & she doesn’t want to repeat the history again. But some time we have to take risk. For all my decisions the only family member who is the toughest to convince is my Mummy. Convincing her is not a joke; believe me it’s very tough because we have to first think of her “Asthma Attack” before approaching her against her decisions. I still remember how I have convinced her for my expensive non affordable higher studies based on education loan, even she didn’t want me to go away from her... As she loves me a lot, she was afraid how she will manage without me @ home as well as she was much tensed for my daily routine my food, cloth etc... Love You Mummy.. Thanks for your compromises.... In my coming stories you will come to know more about her...

Finally the day come when I met my papa, 27 days after my birth... I don’t know how he did manage those days, his first child & he couldn’t see for 27 days.... Very difficult... My papa... what to say about him.. A very emotional person, very good human being.. My mummy is one of the lucky people in this world who got such a nice husband & we are proud of you papa...

Ohhh I am missing his one of the best quality.. He is exceptionally intelligent in every aspect.. I can tell you one thing he is the only person to whom I can give credit for my good analytical skills, my good aptitude.. He is the only person behind me for my good mathematics. Actually there is a story behind for why he has worked hard for my mathematics, in his school days he wanted to choose maths as his subject but he was late by few days & his teacher did not allowed him to take maths, he had to go for biology... He wanted his child to fulfil his dream, we are really proud to say that we both, me & my sister have chosen mathematics as our major subject in 11^th & did well.. I was the best student for all my mathematics teachers from school to graduation.... Thank you papa ji... J J J   

I think his life is more interested than me.. He is the 1^st role model in my life who taught me how to make sure our existence in this world as born poor. He as an extremely talented student in his school wanted to study more but due to poor financial condition he has started “Pani Puri” stall in his childhood along with his school. He used to manage both his school as well as his Pani Puri stall... Hats Off...  I don’t know how he could be doing that...

Unlike being a poor, he has been married to a girl belongs to a very rich family. The major reason may be his elder brother, who had been starting earn good money that time with good reputation in the society & may be based on that my Nana Ji (Maternal Grandfather) would have taken that decision. I think the each time we taken credit from mummy’s family, the each time my papa become sad & found guilty by himself... he actually required emotional support rather than a financial support.. Even though we have repaid all the debt to mummy’s family, he still can’t forgive himself for taking help from them. 

I think I wanted to give a proper answer to all those who still thinking that we are running from others money. Only money can’t make you successful. I have seen various examples in my life people having good financial condition become poor. Education of 2 children, with daily house hold expenses, expensive medicines of mummy’s Asthma is not a joke. He is the person who used to travel 50 KM a day with his bicycle. Yes with bicycle. Worked like a labour throughout the life for us for our family. The problem was that our rich relatives did not understand this. He never gives up in his life. He has taught us to dream high... unlike stopping us he always appreciate our expectations from him & try to fulfil it.

He was always knowing that he couldn’t fulfil our expectations, but he never demoralize us for dreaming high.. That is the reason; I am still dreaming & working hard to achieve them. One thing I would like to tell to all my relatives that if my mummy is happy in her life, then the only reason behind that is my papa. No money can make happy to women than having a caring, understanding & compromising husband. I have seen lots of fight @ our home during my childhood & the only reason was money & our rich relatives. I have never seen any fight for not understanding the feeling of each other by mummy papa. Whenever there was a fight @ night, the first person who wake up in the morning start talking was my papa, “Manju chal uth Chai Pi Le”.. J J J What a loving husband. Mummy is not behind him & always started cooking food which my papa likes without talking to him, she is like that only. When there were any misunderstanding & fight with anyone in the family, she stops talking until her mind goes calm but during this period you will get best caring person of all time. J J J

I can still memorize various moments of my parents chemistry.. When mummy cooked something & in the lunch table papa told that he wished the same in the morning. I don’t know how mummy can read his heart... they are just awesome couple with lots of ups & downs.. Manage everything together. They are still working together, with lots of fight & love. At the end its love who winning always.

My papa’s understanding is just awesome; he is a good husband who compromises everything for her wife. Actually I like the combination of both. Their chemistry is just awesome. Frankly speaking Mummy is dominating in our family more than papa on decision making.... But she never takes even a single step without permission of my Papa...  She loves him a lot & I love the way she gives surprises to Papa with lots of gift... I have seen their chemistry from my childhood, & that is the only reason I want a dominating wife who can influence my decisions & love me like anything. And I don’t think I will miss even a single chance to impress my wife on daily basis to make sure that she will not live without loving me... there will be no choice for her other than loving me..  But currently the question is who will be my better half? Let see whether I can get Loving & Dominating wife... !!!

In my coming blogs I will introduced various people, in which I would like to introduced my sister, as she has shown the world that nothing can be stop a girl from poor family to become a successful & self dependent.

In my life I always respect relationship. At the end of life you won’t be recognized by how many times you have satisfied your ego but you will be known for how much you respect the relationship.

One of the best quotes I have read @ Mr. Shekhar Priyadarshi’s Desk (Head of our Process in TCS) à

“Apologizing doesn’t mean that you are wrong, and the other person is right… It means that you value relationship much more than your ego….......”

I always tried to follow the above quotes in my personal life. Hey god please keep giving me strength to say word “Sorry” always & forever... Please don’t let my ego to dominant my relationship skills...

I think you will meet following category of people is your life à

1.      People to whom you personally want to impress: These kinds of people can change you... Please don’t leave them... even if you won’t get proper response.. Your ego will be hurt frequently, while developing relationship with them, but you have to be mean... Remember they can change you... The only time I have faced problem, when the person is a female, in that case you will be projected like any criminal. Thanks fully I have less number of females in this category... J J J Approaching female person for friendship not always mean you had something different going on your mind. Till date I failed only once where I couldn't make it...

2.      People who want to impress you: Generally we couldn’t realize the importance of this category of people until & unless they go away from our life. I respect a lot al the person in my life belongs to this category & never let them go from my life. I always remember even a small thing done for me without my request to them.

3.      People who want you to be happy & even you want them to be happy with your work: you can call them your Best Friends, who come under this category. You should feel lucky even if you have few people in your life with this category. Remember you will not getting these type of people easily.

4.      People who don’t bother what you are: Nothing to say about this type of category. Be polite to them. These people decide your public etiquettes. It’s equally important that how you behave with these people even though you have no personal benefit with them.

5.      People who don’t like you ever & forever: Lolzzz.. Give a salute to them... Generally either you are not good person or they are jealous with your success, which is why they don’t like you. But if you already have a good number of people in the first 3 categories then these type of people defiantly jealous with you. These kinds of people are stubby & will never like you. They can’t change. I generally use “Gandhigiri” with this kind of people. This is the only trick which can change their mind set.

I have all the category of people with me & I am enjoying them a lot. Being born poor you have first start finding the 1^st category of people. Yes these will be the people who will act as stair for success. Remember they can change you never let them go. And if you are able to convert 1^st category of people into 2^nd & 3^rd... Then wow, nothing can be better than that.... If you have people with 2^nd category then nobody can stop you to be you are successful & fly high in this world. People in your life with 3^rd category will make sure the foundation of your success. I will not comment on 4^th category of people but for 5^th category of people... Most of them will demoralize you... Don’t even listen to them.... Be positive always... I will introduce each & every category of people who come in my life & my experience with them in my coming blogs....

My coming blogs may be released with the headings “My Initial Days...”, “Financial Help (Debt) from Relatives....”, “Foundation of New Journey....”, “Friends Club Barghat.....”, “Struggle for Higher Studies...”, “Swing Machine in Rs. 1...”, “My B.Sc. Days....”, “Making of MBA in Marketing & Finance....”, “My 1^st offer letter...”, ”My Dream Project....”, “No......... J”, “Vision, Mission & Objective...” etc.

I think I have written enough for the introduction of “BORN poor IS GOOD...:)”. I am busy in my current project, so cannot write frequently...  I am scheduling it for 28^th May 2011, 12:00 AM...

As like Chetan Bhagat, I would like to thanks MS-Word & Google Translate for the Grammar & Spelling checks. I would also request you to please forgive me for my English, its worst I must say...

Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J

regards,

rupesh