There Is No Shortcut To Earn Money

Struggle, Loss, Failure, Limitations to complete any task etc. are the situations which no body want to face. But whenever we face these situations most of the time we termed these situations as “Bad Luck” to avoid our fault. Every failure has reason to fail & not because of our “Bad Luck”. For me one can be “Lucky” by chance but cannot be “Unlucky” in any case.

If somebody born in rich family then you may say he or she is “Lucky” by chance but it’s nonsense saying “Bad Luck” if someone born in poor family. If a poor person wins lottery may be “Luck” but if a rich person loses money may have any reason but it can’t be “Bad Luck”.

I think naming your failure as your “Bad Luck” is nothing but inviting another failure & stopping yourself to grab other opportunity which may make you successful with much better density of success...

“Kuch Paane Ki Ho Aash.. Aash.... Kuch Armaan Ho Jo Khaash.. Khaash...

Ashayein.. Ashayein...

Har Koshish Me Ho Baar Baar... Kare Dariayon Ko Aaar Paar...

Ashayein... Ashayein...

Tufano Ko Chir Ke... Manzilo Ko Chhin Le...

Ashayein Le Dil Ki... Ummedein Hase Dil Ki...

Aab Mushkil Nahi Kuch Bhi... Nahi Kuch Bhi...” J J J J

These lines from the Song “Ashayien..” from Movie “Iqbal”.. Talks about Hope, Efforts, Courage to fulfil your Dream, Ability to Never Give Up on Your Efforts & Finally Encourage to face all the Challenges “Bravely”... J J J J

From last few months I am facing such situations in bulk... J J J J.. Even I used the word “Bad Luck” in some cases. But soon I realized that by using word “Bad Luck” I was just running away from my limitations or from my useless efforts which lead to failure. Because.. “Efforts Alone Has No Use... Result Matters...” J J J J

After bombarding of all such bad situations from last few months, which seems to me not ending soon as well, firstly I have deleted the word “Bad Luck” from my dictionary, which was weaken my strength to learn from my failure. & finally I asked myself –

“Do I “Brave” enough to face all these challenges?

I replied no I am not “Brave”, I cannot fight with anyone. Then I said to my self – “Hey fool I am not asking that whether you are “Physically Brave” or not. Let me rephrase my question first –

“Do I “Mentally Brave” to face all these challenges?

Yes, I got the point. I have to be “Mentally Strong” which will give me strength to fight back again & again after each my failure. If we look back & see most of the successful person, they are successful because they were “Brave from Mind” rather “Physically Brave”. Best example which came to me is none other than our “Father of Nation Mahatma Gandhi”. He was so successful in his objectives because he was “Mentally Brave”. He was very clear in his vision, mission & objective with his way of non violence & he was stick with the same till the end.

Do remember that our “Physical Strength” can be misused any time & lead to big loss if we don’t have “Control in our Mind”. But if you are “Mentally Brave” then for success it’s not so important to be “Physically Brave”.  For example if we will compare a life of a “Physically Handicapped Person” then we will found that they have lots of challenges for their daily activities but I found them more successful than any other “Physically Fit” person, because they are managing all the challenges with all the hurdles & they are able to do so because they are “Brave from Mind”.

In the current scenario in India It is easy to make money from money but yes very difficult to make money with no money. Rightly said by most of the people currently in India, “Rich become Richer & Poor become Poorer”.  Yes there are few example who become successful with no money but their count is very negligible & we can call it as exceptions. A labour that does lots of hard work in a day left with Rs. 50 to 100. Where other lot of people with some amount of cash in their hand do intraday trading in stock markets & take away 1000’s of Rupees every day.

Yes I do agree that “There Is No Shortcut to Earn Money” but only for those who don’t have money.  If you are poor, you don’t have your own land, you don’t have working capital to run a even small size retail business, Banks don’t give loan on your ability they too wants guaranty, yes it’s very difficult in India to earn money for a poor.

Once I thought to write to President of India to become Guarantor of my father for a Bank Loan which has been rejected because he was nothing to produce as guaranty other than his loyalty, honesty & capabilities to earn money from money. As he is the citizen of India with great track record, follow all the rules & regulations of Indian Constitution & if President of Republic India will not become guarantor of an Indian Citizen then what will be the meaning of democracy?

But I thought not to waste my time on some ideological debate & it is better to find our own way to earn money. One thing is very clear for a Poor in India, earn good amount of money required lots of courage & he or she has to be “Mentally Strong” to face all the challenges. For a poor in India who wanted to earn handsome amount money is like “Running against the Wind”.

There is one way which is Education & cost of qualitative education in India is too high, which a poor cannot effort; unfortunately we have the reservation system based on caste rather than poverty.

Any ways if we keep continue crying being poor in India has no hope, doesn’t solve our problem. We have to wake up; try to run against the wind, I know it is very difficult but if you are mentally strong than nobody can stop you to achieve unbelievable success. We have to take risks.

Currently I am executing my dream project which is indeed a very high risk project & as I told you earlier in this post that I am facing bombarding of bad situations every day from the same project. As “There Is No Shortcut to Earn Money”, I can only face these challenges if I would be “Mentally Strong” to face such challenges.

Any ways that is something really very high risk taken from me so I have to face all the circumstances. But I remember my 1^st earned money in year 2001, which was without any help from my family & I did not have any money in my hand. That gives me lots of motivation to be “Mentally Strong” even today for any kind of risk. Yes that was smaller risk but still risk is a risk.

Earning money by doing any job can be possible even though you don’t have money. But earning money by doing business is very difficult if you don’t have money.

As I told you in my previous post that my parents were against of my involvements in any of the business activities apart from our family business & from my studies. But I wanted to earn money by my own. I don’t know why I was so hungry to earn money by my own but you can say it could be my passion to earn money independently.

In the Rakhi Festival 2001, I have decided to open Rakhi Shop for 8 days. I convinced my 3 friends Guru Kushwaha, Sumit Kushwaha & Amit Yadav for the same. We bought Rakhis worth Rs. 800/- on full credit. We were having no cash at that time.

We have arranged some Bamboos, Material for roof & other items which required to installing a temporary shop & installed one shop in front of Guru’s shop. But that place was not the right place for Rakhi Shop. It was far away from the main market & it was a big risk to install our shop in the outer area. But we have installed our shop there.

It is right that when you do what you want to do then nobody can beat your courage & passion to do that. You don’t believe I have to attend my morning tuition classes in Seoni (25 K.M. away from Barghat) took at least 1 hour to travel due to bad road conditions at that time & I was very excited about my 1^st business that I started wake up early in the morning & was ensuring that I should open the shop before I leave to Seoni & hand over to my other colleague. What a great time that was, the passion to open the shop, excitement on each sell & finally calculation of daily sell amount, excellent feeling & experience.

We have started utilizing our daily sells as working capital for these 8 days & purchased some more Rakhis later, included coconuts & roomals in our shop. After end of 8 days we have repaid all our debts & left with Rs. 2000/- in hand along with some Rakhi’s which we can sell in next year. In end we all were back to home with Rs. 500/- in our hands with lots of “self satisfaction”.

It was not that much great feeling to earn Rs. 500/- independently than to give this money to my Mummy. Learn lots of things from this. One of the best learning was the risk taking ability. That was my 1^st risk which I have taken independently. From then I am taking risk in my life & enjoying each & every moments.

We have continued that for next 3 seasons, profits were increased each year. Later I moved to Indore for my MBA. When I visited Barghat in this Rakhi, I met Guru & Sumit, we all have reminded the good memories of those 3 years. Those are the excellent memories with lots of good experience.

From then till now whatever I earned one thing is very clear that “There Is No Shortcut to Earn Money”... J J J J

My next target was to boost up our swing machine business. In the same year I wanted to introduce one scheme from Navratra to Diwali for our swing machine business. I started convincing my parents to implement this scheme which was very risky indeed. I required Rs. 5000/- for advertisement & support from family to implement the scheme.

1.      Whether I was able to convince my parent?

2.      Whether they have given me Rs. 5000/- for advertisements?

3.      Whether I would be able to impalement that scheme?

4.      More importantly what was that scheme?

Breaking News this is the end of this post.... you have to wait for my next post for getting answers to these questions....

I would like to end this post with great lines from the same song “Ashayien..” from Movie “Iqbal”..

“Gujre Aisi Her Raat Raat... Ho Khwahiso Se Baat Baat...

Ashayein.. Ashayein...

Lekar Suraj Se Aag Aag... Gaaye Ja Apana Raag Raag...

Ashayein.. Ashayein...

Kuch Aisa Kerke Dikhaa.. Khud Khus Ho Jaaye Khuda....

Ashayein Le Dil Ki... Ummedein Hase Dil Ki...

Aab Mushkil Nahi Kuch Bhi... Nahi Kuch Bhi...” J J J J

Thanks a lot for reading... Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J

regards,

rupesh

Please Don't Disturb! Dreamers are not Sleeping

“Nazar Me Khwabo Ki Bizliya Leker Chal Rahe Ho... Too Zinda Ho Tum... J J J J”

Thanks every one for reading & appreciating my previous posts... When I have started writing this blog one of the objective was to impress someone... & this time I got appreciation from her as well... which is motivational for me... But yes my next posts won’t have same objective.. Now I am writing for you all, who are reading my blog with interest... Motivating me... Giving me support for the task in which I am not expert indeed...

Today is 14 September 2011, which is 47^th birthday of my mummy; let me start this post from her only.

Our family has seen lots of ups & down but all of them have been managed by my papa along with great support from my mummy. I have never seen my mummy regret that she married to a very poor family where her parents are very rich. She did never jealous with her sisters who married to quite rich families. She never felt unlucky. Despite her “Asthma” she continues her art classes for so many years; she is continuously working along with my papa for our future. She is the true dreamer who always dreams for something & achieved most of them. She is still dreaming & working hard to achieve it.

She taught us the importance of savings & how to save money for bad time. “Saving money is her art which we have learnt from her. The saving cycle start from a single Rupee coin, which she used to keep in her saving box & whenever she completed such 10 coins, she used to replace those coins by a 10 Rupee note & one cycle stops only when one 100 rupee note placed in her saving box.” It’s really very difficult for us to save 1 rupee coin  & be passionate for other coins to join them till it become 100. 

She is the person who never liked that her children should get any kind of sympathy from any one or ignored due to our poverty. From our childhood we got everything like any other children, who belongs to rich family. Most of the time she used to spent her savings on us only. “Once we have been to one of our relative’s place & I asked to drive their bicycle, which for any reason they have refused to give. She, who was looking at my nervous face, bought one bicycle for me within few days after that incident.... J J J J”

Thank you mummy for never let us feel like poor in front of others, always fulfil our basic needs, gave us everything more than expected & compromised your basic needs. I don’t think I can do anything for you in life which will be as equal as you did for us. I know how much you dreaming for us & still dreaming for us.

Love You Mummy... Happy Birthday to You...  J J J J

It’s all about for year 1998... When my family was struggling to earn that much money which could at least fulfil our daily needs, but my parents did never give up, in whatever situations we were. They never stop “dreaming”. Dream was all about ensuring good education of their children, securing our future. They were not only dreaming but working hard to achieve it. They are having great will power. No matter in what situation we were those days but it was never reflects in our life style. I think most of the people who know us from years still won’t be able to believe that we have been gone through such kind of struggle.  

Let’s talk about two dreamers, who are playing lead role in this script “BORN poor IS GOOD...:)”, my Mummy & Papa. My papa always taught us “Swawlambi Bano” (Be Independent). Don’t ask for help if it can be done by you. My mummy always emphasises on our “Dignity”. Don’t let yourself down in front of any one, which would create any kind of sympathy for you (Be Self Respected).

When my mummy papa was dreaming, I was thinking for a miracle or a lottery which can only make them successful. But actually I was challenging the true dreamers.... J J J When dreamers start working hard with strong will power then nothing can stop them to become successful. Either it’s “Asthma” of my mummy or “Back Bone” issue of my papa.

There are no restrictions on dreaming. Anyone can dream for anything. While my mummy papa dreaming which at that point was very difficult to achieve, few questions which always confused me from my childhood that – “Is it possible that everyone who dreams will be successful” If it is possible then why can’t other dreams like my mummy papa?”

Why can’t a labour who is watching lots of cars passing him while working on road, dream for one of them? Why can’t our maid, dream for her children education? Why can’t a waiter who is serving foods during a marriage function of a very rich family, dream for being one of guest? Why can’t a beggar who is sleeping on footpath, dream for a home? Few of them must be dreaming but sometimes few dreams seems unrealistic & people generally give up & leave it for situation, so whenever I saw my mummy papa dreaming, one doubt always disturbing me that if dreaming is all about success then most of the people I have mentioned would be successful as they are in this situation from so many years.

But soon I understood that there is something which differentiates people who don’t dream or just dreaming from dreamers with passion & strong willpower. Actually dreams are depends upon your expectations from life & where you currently stand. If your current position is as per your expectations then there is less possibilities that you dream. But how can we decide our exact expectations from our life?  “I think our individual expectations from life differ in each stage of our life from childhood to elder. Secondly our social expectations from life depend upon external factors like our family, society we belong, kind of friends we have, people around us, & the growth rate of this world.” Like become a Sports Person can be your individual dream but dreaming for Olympic Gold Medal for your country must be influenced from your social expectations from life. 

Dreams are self defined targets, which never let you sleep. Dreams are self motivational instruments, which always makes you stand again and again after your each fall. Dreams always give you something in end, if you have tried to achieve it, no matter you are successful to achieve it or not. Some time you became unsuccessful for your unachievable big dreams but in that case when you look back when you started & when you ended, you find you self successful in certain areas which you might not be thought for.  “Some time you have to Dream for big to achieve small”.

Whenever my mummy used to tell, one day we will have this & that, but my question was “How?”.. And the answer is “there were two dreamers on work with great will power & hard work & they were my mummy papa”

They were not going to stop, they have started 4 different businesses one by one, and those were not that much big but all required lots of hard work.

But I was not taking interest in our business.. Everything has its own time.. I was just 14 year old.. It was my age for study, playing with friends, watches tv & enjoy life etc. My relatives were started talking about my interest on business, comparing me with other with same age who was giving full support to their family business by that time.

My papa never forced us to do anything without interest. “I cannot forget that he has installed portable black & white TV in our shop so that I should not be bored in shop when there is no customer. TV was something which was to create consistency of my attendance in the shop, so that I learn how to do business & very intelligent move indeed which made me visit our shop frequently.”

Throughout my childhood my parents never let us feel like poor. They fulfilled all our valid demands whenever required like our good quality study material or good cloths or any toy. When I started visiting our shop I realized that our life is not that easy as I was enjoying, I have to be serious about our future.  “According to me if you will start new business you will start from “Zero”, but we were in “-10” at that point.” Our business was totally running on debts with very high rate, which was very difficult for us to repay on time.

But my parents were not going to stop, decided to boost up our “Swing Machine” business, which actually required few thousands rupees. They have decided to mortgage some of mummy’s gold jewelleries.... They actually didn’t want any kind of favour from any one...

When my mummy went to my maternal uncles for mortgaging jewellery to them something unexpected happened. The whole atmosphere was changed to very emotional filmy scene. Actually neither my father nor my mother was in a favour to take any financial help from any one, which is why the decision of mortgaging has been taken.

But when it comes to emotional attachment of brother & sister you can’t help. Every one present there became emotional. Urgently my father has been called with all the record from our shop. Situation has been analysed by my maternal uncles & total amount has been calculated which will be required to at least make us debt free from the market. The amount if I remember correctly was around Rs. 1 lac 20 thousand. The same amount has been provided by my maternal uncles & my parents have taken money only after my maternal uncles promised that they will accept the money when we will repay it to them. This development helped us to reach “Zero” when we were in “-10”.... J J J J   Recently we have paid whole amount to them.

Now we had to start from Zero. It was not an easy task indeed. My maternal uncles have decided to provide goods for our shop on reasonable price until we stabilize so we started purchasing the goods from them as other wholesaler were charging us 10 to 20% extra from normal market price. One of the best move I must say, at least we could match our retail price with other retailer in the market.

Everything was fine at that point of time for me, when this development was happening I was very happy & excited. But I didn’t realize that this will make us dependent on others. We won’t be able to take decision on our own for expanding business, taking risk etc. Actually that development was taking away independence of our family. We were going to be dependent on our every move. We have to satisfy others before taking any decision.

I started showing interest on our business after this development which increases some hope for our family, especially to me. I started experimenting various ways to increase the sales. I have started selling some seasonable items in footpath in front of our shop especially in the weekly market days. I start enjoying our business. My involvement has been increased drastically in our business from year 1998 to 2001.

My involvement in our business was in peak those days, but what about my studies? I have never skipped schools for our shop & thanks to my parent who take care of this. One clear instruction was given to me from the “No shop when it comes to studies”. I think from class 9^th I started giving good results by marks which was average but at least better than before.

By the year 2001 we started realizing that we are not independent, we were not allowed to take any decisions independently because we were dependent. Few incidents happened when I felt that there is no freedom for me to do business in whatever way I wanted to do. My parents always wanted me to concentrate on studies & search for any other career through studies.  

But I have to go for both study & searching for other source of income in which I can do whatever I wanted to do..... But my parents were not agreed with the concept... For them first priority was study & if I have time other than my studies then no other drama of earning money other than our shop.. L L L

But I am their son, who has learnt dreaming from them only... So let’s check out for my next post for how I earned my first money independently apart from my family business & given it to my mummy...

Following lines from Movie “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” will be best to end this post & provide some essence of my next post...

“Dilo Me Tum Apani Betabiya Lekar Chal Rahe Ho... Too Zinda Ho Tum....” J J J J

Thanks a lot for reading... Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J

regards,

rupesh

My Initial Days “Picture Abhi Baki Hai Mere Dost”

Ohhh... My 1^st post is live on web from last few days... I can’t say it’s a success but number of feedback I am getting in terms of both areas where I can improve & how much they like the content. These feedbacks are sufficient for me to start writing my 2^nd post as soon as possible.

I would like to mention various feedbacks I am getting before I start. One of the feedbacks was common by all, which is my English. Grammatical mistakes in sentence making. The area which even I think I need improvement. But this is the thing which cannot improve over a night, for this I will start reading books, which may help me to learn how to write in proper English.

Second suggestion is from Rohit Gaharwar, he is from Delhi, one of my best colleagues I have met in PwC. He has given me an excellent idea for making my next post more interesting. He said I should include some external content as story along with my personal story so that people find it more interesting while reading & they can correlate my post with their surroundings. Excellent boss you rocked thanks a ton... If you notice I have include “Picture Abhi Baki Hai Mere Dost” along with my real title to incorporate Rohit’s recommendations. I will use this theme to write my initial days.

Third valuable suggestion came from Mr. Yogesh Shahu, he is from my native place Barghat (M.P.), now in USA from last few years. He said it’s good that you appreciate people in your blog with their qualities. But when you want to highlights their negative points then in that case you have to be polite. Remember you are writing this is in public domain. He was also impressed with my dare to write my real life in public domain but he was tensed that how people will take this, this may harm my image as well. Thanks bhaiya for your suggestion. One of the best I can get. You are true well wishers of mine.

 I would like to thank few more well wishers of mine, this list include Neetu Surywanshi, Shireen Khan, Prasad lad for their valuable feedback. Special thank to Prasad lad for sharing “Different kind of People in ur life...” content from my blog in his FB. Thanks Rohit Verma, Nirmit, Yogesh Bhaiya & Veena Nair for sharing my blog link to their FB. I would also like to thanks BD Ballani from Delhi, my colleague in PwC for special appreciation mail for the same, Atika Agrawal for calling me & appreciate my 1^st post, Satyen Chouksey for dedicating special shayri. Special thanks to Bharath Sir for reading my post & liking it. Last but not the least thanks to all to whom I have missed out.

I am releasing this post on 20^th June 2011, 28^th Wedding Anniversary of my parents. One of the special occasions, I am busy in my current project but still couldn’t stop myself to give some time to write this blog for releasing on 20^th June.

I still remember when we (me & my sister) were in school; “26^th January & 15^th August” was very special for us. It was like festival. Mummy papa always started preparation 1 day before, well washed, cleaned & ironed dress, don’t forgot to polish our footwear, everything up to date as we are to attend any family function. Getup early in the morning on National Days with Doordarshan & make sure that we should be ready on time & reached school before Unfurling the National Flag. And we were learning importance of these days in our life. We should proud to be Indian & we are proud to be Indian.

“Happy Wedding Anniversary to Mummy Papa... This post is dedicated to both you...”

Let’s start the My Initial Days “Picture Abhi Baki Hai Mere Dost”. I will try to make it sort unlike my 1^st blog which was competitively big then a normal blog post.

One day one person with a Police constable with a paper in his hand was visiting to each shop of barghat, also visited to our shop. In the paper it was written that he is travelling & lost his all money & he doesn’t have money to reach his home. My papa contributes for him as like others & after he left he said “I would rather prefer to sell my Silver ring in my finger than doing this”... I was very young that time; I was just sitting beside him. Meet my father Mr. Shantilal Jain born in the year 1959.

Barghat is a very small place; only few garment shops were there in 90ies, we were one of them but our shop was comparatively small. But as we belong to the group so it was obvious that we are known to each other. Me & my Mummy went for shopping to one of the biggest garment shop in Barghat, I think it somewhere around 1995, and we finished our shopping, went to the bill counter. Bill amount has been told to us. Mummy found that she had few hundred Rupees short with her. She told to the shop owner that she will send the money once reached home. Shop owner denied... J J J... “Without waiting for second She removed her gold bangles from her hand & said keep it with you.. I am sending you Money...” Everyone around us was just watching us. Meet my Mummy Mrs. Manju Lata Shantilal Jain born in the year 1964.

Recently my sister had small accident. She was travelling from Barghat to Hyderabad. She preferred to continue her journey for Hyderabad than to go back to Barghat. After she reached Hyderabad she realized that she had a serious injury on her foot. She went to the doctor had x-ray & result was a minor fracture.  Doctor said there is no need of plaster but has given a bandage. Every one suggested she had to go for plaster & should not take risk. As she was alone in Hyderabad, it was not feasible for her to have plaster in Hyderabad. I booked her Bus Ticket AC Sleeper. Bus time was 8.30 PM. She reached well before in time by 30 Min. Bus came. She looked @ bus sitting arrangements & assumed that this is not the bus which I have booked the ticket. She did skip the bus. After bus went from the stop, she called me up & asks me that what kind of bus was that in which I have booked the ticket. I explained him & she loudly said “Arey Meri wo hi bus thi... Bhaiya tu phone rakh.. mere ko bus ka peecha kerna padega...”. She took an auto & started towards next bus stop. She didn’t aware where the bus was. I started searching for the mobile number of Bus Conductor. Till the I would get his number, she called me after 30 min & said “Bhaiya Mere Ko Bus Mil Gayi... J”. She is successful in any case. Meet my sister Miss Ruchi Shantilal Jain born in 1986.

And me... J, I started writing blog to impress a person who falls under 1^st category of people in my life “People to whom you personally want to impress”. (Refer my 1^st post “An Introduction..... BORN poor IS GOOD (Part 1)”). I don’t know whether I am successful to impress “her” or not but yes by this I have started doing something, which is being appreciated by many people, many of them told me that they are waiting for my next blog J J J J... See what I told you.. This 1st category of people can change you... no matter you are successful to impress them or not but by doing that you can achieve something extraordinary which you may never thought of. Meet I, me & myself - Rupesh Shantilal Jain born in 1984.

Barghat is a Nagar Panchayat in Dist. – Seoni, Madhya Pradesh. Madhya Pradesh had a very tough time during 1993 to 2003. Life in barghat was not easy those days. Government was not even able to provide 2 hour of electricity supply in a day. Timings were also not fixed for these 2 hours, most of the time it was in any of the time after 12 o’clock night & before 6 o’clock... Hell hell hell.... One day hundreds of female citizens of Barghat visited to electricity office of Barghat with black paint & bangles. And you can imagine what they must have done... This is Barghat... united always for a social cause.... J J J J

If I am writing my Initial days & forgot to mention Ashar Family in Barghat then this will be unfair. They are backbone for us in Barghat, without them we were nothing in Barghat. From last 28 years they have given their place to us on rent both our house & shop. Apart from this, this is the family which always make sure that we don’t struggle much. Let me introduce Ashar Family, first Mr. Kishor Kumar Ashar (Uncle), specially known as “Papa Bhai” in Barghat. He is one of the well know personality & one of the biggest BJP leader & social worker, second Mrs. Kalindi Kishor Kumar Ashar (Aunty), I love food cooked by her. Finally their children, my friends & brothers Mr. Amit Kishor Kumar Ashar & Mr. Nikunj Kishor Kumar Ashar, from my childhood we are together & still together. One thing which can describe this family better is that I have never seen any houses apart from them, where all people get same level of excellent hospitality, no matter people visited is poor or rich. As I have spent my most of the time of childhood in their house with Nikunj-Amit I have seen this very closely & more often. Great Family Great People.

When I was 2 year old, Nikunj-Amit started going to school & as I was there at their home most of the time, aunty ji used to sent me along with them to school, so that I should not bore without Nikunj-Amit @ home. After few days, School principal noticed that I am enjoying the school, approached to my father & asked to get my admission formalities done for KG1. I was 2.5 year old at that time, 1 year younger than normal age of 3.5 years for admission in school. Hurreyyyy 1 year up from the beginning itself, what a start sir ji...

I was an average student by marks in my school days. One of the biggest reasons was that I was “Logical” in my studies because of my father but not “Legible”. Due to my poor marks my parents always pray that I should at least complete my graduation (minimum B.Sc.). Even though I was a poor performer by marks & we were not financial strong, my parents always wished that me & my sister must be well educated. They worked harder for that but still it was very difficult. When I was in 8th standard, it was doubtful that we would have sufficient money for my study expenses for 9th standard. Remember this is for quality education otherwise we have free education facilities from government...

Here I would like to mention one of my favourite dialogs from Movie “Om Shanti Om” à

Shahrukh Khan as Om Kapoor at the time of Award ceremony on his Award Speech:

Ladies & Gentlement.... Itni Sidhhat Se Maine Tumhe Paane ki Koshish Ki Hai... Ki Har Zarre Ne Mujhe Tumse Milane Ki Sazish Ki Hai... Kehte Hai Agar Kisi Cheej Ko Dil Se Chaho... To Puri Kayanaat Use Tumse Milane Ki Koshish Me Lag Jaati Hai.. Aap Sab Ne Mujhe Meri Chahat Se Mila Diya.. Thanks... Thanks Very much... I Feel Like The King Of The World..

 Aaj Iss Baat Ka Bhi Yakeen Ho Gaya.. Kee.. Hamaari Filmo Ki Tarah Hamaari Jindagi Me Bhi.. End Tak Sab Kuch Thik Ho Hi Jaat Hai.. Happy is Ending.. Or Agar Thik Naa Ho.. To Wo “The End” Nahi Hai Dost... "Picture... Abhi Baki Hai Mere Dost..."

Till 6th standard, I haven’t touched even 60% marks. 1st time in 7th standard I got 74% marks, for this I would like to give full credit to “Mr. Prem Shrivastava” for his excellent guidance as teacher & to the healthy competition which I have never faced before.... “Ye ladkiya bhi naa.... Izzat ki baat hai bhai... he he he he he he... lolzzzzzzz”. In 8th standard first time I appeared for board examination & back again to my normal track with 52% marks. What a big fall. Izzat ki to wat lag gayi... Lolzzzzz...”. Anyways everything happens for some good. This setback was must required to do away with my over confidence that build due to  my 7th standard result . After 8th results I never studied to become topper rather happy to be an average student.

Did I mention over confident... yes one of the mental state of us which results in failure for 90% time.

In my 1st blog I have mentioned various categories of people & their contribution for your success & failure. In this blog I would like to mention various mental states which contribute for your success & failure.

Following are the mental state which we may be in à

1.       Demotivated: In this state you always think nothing is possible. May be you must have good objective but you always think you cannot achieve it. Success percentage is Zero. In this state even a small bottleneck looks like a big struggle.

2.       Neutral: Neutral mental state always works for very short term objective, for example you are working for today. You want to just pass today not even bother about tomorrow. In that you have nothing to lose as you have not big objective in your life. No gain, no loss.

3.       Confident: In this state we always face every struggle without much pain. Our objective is very clear no matter whether it is short term or long term. We know what is wrong, what is right. We never overlook our mistakes. We always in learning mind set. We respect our competitors & never ignore their strengths. More importantly we believe in our self. In this mental state 90% of time we get success.

4.       Over Confident: This is the killer of success most of the time. I always failed to achieve my objective whenever I was in this mental state. We generally ignore our mistakes in this state. We even ignore our competitors’ strength. We think we are perfect, so no requirement of learning. We over believe in our self in this mental state. In this mental state 10% of time we get success.

Mental states are not fixed for life; one cannot be judged us as particular type of people who has same mental state for the life time. Our mental state varies from situation to situation. Depends upon, for which objective we are working.

Nobody can tell you with perfection your current mental state other than yourself. As if you are confident then demotivated person will always projects you as over confident & in the same time over confident person will project you as demotivated. It is better that we should always aware that, in which mental state we falls in particular situation.

Over confidence is a biggest setback for me which always strike after a big success. Most of the time failure comes to my life just because of my over confident. It is better that we should divide our long term objective in small parts so that success & failure also come is small forms & we should not become over confident suddenly after a success.

I am accepting that I am over confident on certain areas like for example while discussion some time I give less importance to other's view, which is not right indeed. I am trying to work on the same. I am confident in certain aspects like my work & my objectives in my life. I am neutral on sophisticated living standards made by rich society; I generally don’t follow these standards. And I found myself demotivated when it comes to impress the girls... lolzzzzzzz.. J J J J...

Lets back to the story...

From 9th I got “Mr. Rakesh Tiwari” as my mentor.  Along with guidance for our subjects like English, science & maths, he was the first teacher who started working on my writing. He actually visited to my house various time & talked to my parents about me & my career. He was actually impressed with my other talents except my writing. I would like to mention one of the incidents which I cannot forgot in my life. When I was in 9th, one day I reached his home for tuition 1 hour before as I was not aware of changes in tuition timing changes, I reached early & during that time 10th students were studying Mathematics Theorems. Tiwari sir allowed me to sitting with them. After end of the class he confidently told to all 10th students by pointing his finger to me that “This boy can repeat everything tomorrow without any revision whatever I taught you today. OMG... what is this sir.. You have so much confidence on me... & I, who love challenges came early intentionally on next day without any revision & made his words true.. J J J J...

In spite of all good and bad in life, I was able to manage my studies well. Till 6th standard as very poor student & then in 7th with extraordinary marks followed by biggest fall in my marks in 8th, I still going on atleast to complete my graduation & post graduation if possible, but nothing was happening good in our family.. My parents were somehow managing the family’s day to day requirements. My parents started doing Pico-Fall in sarees which was giving some 1 or 2 rupees per saree in early 90’s. I will not go in details but we were not having good capital for our garment business. Whatever material we were getting from whole seller they are charging us more than 10% from the actual price from what they were charging to other retailers because we were taking months to repay their money. Because of this our customer also came to us just because we were providing credit facility to them.

I was very young but understanding everything, nothing was going right with our family. Where our rich society members & rich relatives were earning lacs of rupees every month, we were struggling to earn some 3000 to 5000 rupees per month.

In the year 1998, I was sitting in my classroom with my Friend Naveen Awadhiya & I said to him, Yaar Naveen, how we will manage our family when we get married, “Paise kahan se aayenge yaar.....” He said “aa jayenge yaar.... Don’t worry....”

I was not satisfied with the answer; I had to search for permanent answer of my question “Paise kaha se Aayenge...?” & the answer was I have to start earning money... I have to give my hands to my papa for his business, also I have to think about some other alternatives, something which can give additional source of earning other than our shop.... But I was just 14 year old... It was not that much easy... What to do...?

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Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J

regards,

rupesh

BORN poor IS GOOD.... An Introduction

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Hmmmm.... My 1^st Blog... Ufff... Don’t know from where to start... It’s always very difficult to convert your thoughts in writing; in such a way thatreader should not get bored while reading.....

21^st April 2011 when one of my colleague told me to start writing my blog... Blog!!! Me!!! Shocked!!! Is it possible...? I thought for few seconds & replied yes I will do that but from this Diwali (2011)... “You should start writing your blog.” These words from her were sufficient to motivate me to start writing my blog.

It took 3 more days to me to decide the title of my blog & finally I have created my account in blogger.com on 24^th April. But now the question was when to post my 1^st blog? Is it Diwali? Nahhhh... Not at all possible, I couldn’t stop myself for 6 months? Then? Ohhhh something clicked in my mind... 28^th May 2011, 25^th Birthday of the person who has influenced me to start writing my blog. Don’t you think no date can be better than that & if I missed it then I am a biggest fool in this world....

“Congratulation Neha for your Silver Jubilee on this earth.... My 1^st blog is dedicated to you.... Happy Birth Day Dear... J Thanks for influencing me for this, first time I am doing something new which has been told by someone else. I am the person who never convinced easily. I do what I prefer to do.

“BORN poor IS GOOD...:)” This will be a chain of stories from my personal life, as suggested by the title, this will be a motivational journey for sure for all whom born in poor families & wanted to make their own ways against the wind... Best of Luck Guys... Remember this world has everything for you, especially for you... but you won’t get anything easily... Keep trying until you succeed. .. Never give up... Be straight forward for your objective... Never hide your limitations & Failure... Never be Happy for any Undue Advantage... Undue Advantage will make you weaken & can only give you sort term happiness & they kill your long term benefits.

If you born in rich family belong to rich society then it’s good, if you born in rich family belong to poor society then well & good. If you born poor in poor society, not a bad deal. But the worst part of life is when you born poor in the rich society, the struggle begins from the day one. When you born poor the first thing you have to fight for is the struggle for existence J but if you will enjoy this fight then world is open for you for fly high in the sky.

Currently I am working in one of the Fortune 500 Company with a handsome salary credits in the end of every month in my bank account. My annual salary is very close to 7 digit &  I think if I will keep continue working hard then I will touch the 7 digit figure soon. Now the question is that why I am sharing all this to you? Actually I want to start this with very positive node, so that you must be emotional but not sad whenever I will share bad phases of my life. Remember 3 idiots, when Sarman Joshi (one of the idiot) tried to commit suicide & was hospitalized, while watching that scene you must be emotional but not sad as you were already told early in the movie that he is alive, fit & fine, searching for Amir Khan (one of the missing idiot). JJJ

I am just 27 year old & writing this doesn’t mean that I have achieved everything in my life. I don’t think I have achieved even a 1% of my objectives till date. We are still living in the rented house. We don’t have our own house, but yes what we are today is much better than yesterday. The only reason I am writing this is that whatever we have achieved even till date was the matter of dream which we could never been achieved as one point of time. Even we were not allowed to have such dream by society. I am not joking, it’s true. People were never hesitating to laugh on our various unrealistic dreams, which are now reality.

According to me, god has sent me in this world for a special purpose. But for me it is very important that you should first complete your family responsibilities & then only go for any social work. I don’t think you will be a successful person if you have done something extraordinary social work for the society but the same time you have killed happiness of your family, remember your family member is also part of society and your prime responsibility is to fulfil their basic needs before you going for any social work. Currently I am focusing on my family responsibilities. I think by the age of 30, I will start doing something productive for the society. My dream project with the concept of “Profit Making Social Organization” may help me to make my family happy as well as allow me to work for some social cause simultaneously. Any ways the dream is dream until you succeed.

The story begins from 22^nd Sep... ohhh sorry... it begins from 20^th June 1983, the wedding day of my mummy papa. Yes this is the day, which did make sure that I would come in this world with such a hard working & caring parents. The reason behind why I have written only caring & hard working is that this is the only thing they did in their life, they have dedicated their full life for us (for me & my sister). I don’t think they have any personal interest other than make mine & mine sister’s future secure. 

Finally the day arrived, the day when I was going to meet God’s best gift to me & that was my parents, 22^nd September 1984 the day when I born in this world. Sorry again... I was born in “Mool Nakhatra” & as per rituals my father can’t see me for next 27 days. So I met mummy 1^st... J

Mummy!!! What to say about her!!! She is just brilliant!!! My mummy is very straight forward while talking & having very soft heart by nature.  Her talent of various art works like embroidery, painting, bandej, mehandi etc. are exceptionally well. She has trained various girls in Barghat. I will introduce Barghat later. Same talent has been inherited by my sister, my sister is also exceptionally well in all this. From the day one I don’t think my mummy has compromised on our living standards. She never compromised on our (me & my sister’s) various needs like quality of cloth, quality of food, quality of living style but for that she has compromised her own needs.

I still remember how my mummy was saving all the gift money from her parents during summer vacation, gift money of rakhi & bhai dooj from her brothers along with her own earnings from the various art classes taken by her & never spent for her. She used to save all the money & then spent for various needs of our family members. I can easily remember when she purchased Loona (Moter Cycle) worth Rs. 2000/- for papa ji early in the 90ies, Basic need crockery, my 1^st bicycle, our cloths, our 1^st black & white TV, Our 1^st Cooler & so on & so on.. She is actually the person who made the foundation of our family in our initial days. I am just giving strength to that foundation. Now it’s time to make sure that her efforts won’t waste. Last year for one of our family function we purchased few sarees for mummy worth Rs. 20000/- & the best part was she didn’t stop herself for doing the same as she usually doing for fulfils our needs... One of the best moments in my life J J J

She did keep continue her art classes even though she has been caught by “Asthma” until my father force fully instructed her to stop her classes due to her “Asthma” problem... She is just a hard worker never lived for herself... even though she has been suffered from lots of serious “Asthma Attacks.”

She is still working hard & now a day supporting my father for his business. But yes unlike me she is afraid of Risks, always stop our family member to take any risk as we have already seen worst days in our life & she doesn’t want to repeat the history again. But some time we have to take risk. For all my decisions the only family member who is the toughest to convince is my Mummy. Convincing her is not a joke; believe me it’s very tough because we have to first think of her “Asthma Attack” before approaching her against her decisions. I still remember how I have convinced her for my expensive non affordable higher studies based on education loan, even she didn’t want me to go away from her... As she loves me a lot, she was afraid how she will manage without me @ home as well as she was much tensed for my daily routine my food, cloth etc... Love You Mummy.. Thanks for your compromises.... In my coming stories you will come to know more about her...

Finally the day come when I met my papa, 27 days after my birth... I don’t know how he did manage those days, his first child & he couldn’t see for 27 days.... Very difficult... My papa... what to say about him.. A very emotional person, very good human being.. My mummy is one of the lucky people in this world who got such a nice husband & we are proud of you papa...

Ohhh I am missing his one of the best quality.. He is exceptionally intelligent in every aspect.. I can tell you one thing he is the only person to whom I can give credit for my good analytical skills, my good aptitude.. He is the only person behind me for my good mathematics. Actually there is a story behind for why he has worked hard for my mathematics, in his school days he wanted to choose maths as his subject but he was late by few days & his teacher did not allowed him to take maths, he had to go for biology... He wanted his child to fulfil his dream, we are really proud to say that we both, me & my sister have chosen mathematics as our major subject in 11^th & did well.. I was the best student for all my mathematics teachers from school to graduation.... Thank you papa ji... J J J   

I think his life is more interested than me.. He is the 1^st role model in my life who taught me how to make sure our existence in this world as born poor. He as an extremely talented student in his school wanted to study more but due to poor financial condition he has started “Pani Puri” stall in his childhood along with his school. He used to manage both his school as well as his Pani Puri stall... Hats Off...  I don’t know how he could be doing that...

Unlike being a poor, he has been married to a girl belongs to a very rich family. The major reason may be his elder brother, who had been starting earn good money that time with good reputation in the society & may be based on that my Nana Ji (Maternal Grandfather) would have taken that decision. I think the each time we taken credit from mummy’s family, the each time my papa become sad & found guilty by himself... he actually required emotional support rather than a financial support.. Even though we have repaid all the debt to mummy’s family, he still can’t forgive himself for taking help from them. 

I think I wanted to give a proper answer to all those who still thinking that we are running from others money. Only money can’t make you successful. I have seen various examples in my life people having good financial condition become poor. Education of 2 children, with daily house hold expenses, expensive medicines of mummy’s Asthma is not a joke. He is the person who used to travel 50 KM a day with his bicycle. Yes with bicycle. Worked like a labour throughout the life for us for our family. The problem was that our rich relatives did not understand this. He never gives up in his life. He has taught us to dream high... unlike stopping us he always appreciate our expectations from him & try to fulfil it.

He was always knowing that he couldn’t fulfil our expectations, but he never demoralize us for dreaming high.. That is the reason; I am still dreaming & working hard to achieve them. One thing I would like to tell to all my relatives that if my mummy is happy in her life, then the only reason behind that is my papa. No money can make happy to women than having a caring, understanding & compromising husband. I have seen lots of fight @ our home during my childhood & the only reason was money & our rich relatives. I have never seen any fight for not understanding the feeling of each other by mummy papa. Whenever there was a fight @ night, the first person who wake up in the morning start talking was my papa, “Manju chal uth Chai Pi Le”.. J J J What a loving husband. Mummy is not behind him & always started cooking food which my papa likes without talking to him, she is like that only. When there were any misunderstanding & fight with anyone in the family, she stops talking until her mind goes calm but during this period you will get best caring person of all time. J J J

I can still memorize various moments of my parents chemistry.. When mummy cooked something & in the lunch table papa told that he wished the same in the morning. I don’t know how mummy can read his heart... they are just awesome couple with lots of ups & downs.. Manage everything together. They are still working together, with lots of fight & love. At the end its love who winning always.

My papa’s understanding is just awesome; he is a good husband who compromises everything for her wife. Actually I like the combination of both. Their chemistry is just awesome. Frankly speaking Mummy is dominating in our family more than papa on decision making.... But she never takes even a single step without permission of my Papa...  She loves him a lot & I love the way she gives surprises to Papa with lots of gift... I have seen their chemistry from my childhood, & that is the only reason I want a dominating wife who can influence my decisions & love me like anything. And I don’t think I will miss even a single chance to impress my wife on daily basis to make sure that she will not live without loving me... there will be no choice for her other than loving me..  But currently the question is who will be my better half? Let see whether I can get Loving & Dominating wife... !!!

In my coming blogs I will introduced various people, in which I would like to introduced my sister, as she has shown the world that nothing can be stop a girl from poor family to become a successful & self dependent.

In my life I always respect relationship. At the end of life you won’t be recognized by how many times you have satisfied your ego but you will be known for how much you respect the relationship.

One of the best quotes I have read @ Mr. Shekhar Priyadarshi’s Desk (Head of our Process in TCS) à

“Apologizing doesn’t mean that you are wrong, and the other person is right… It means that you value relationship much more than your ego….......”

I always tried to follow the above quotes in my personal life. Hey god please keep giving me strength to say word “Sorry” always & forever... Please don’t let my ego to dominant my relationship skills...

I think you will meet following category of people is your life à

1.      People to whom you personally want to impress: These kinds of people can change you... Please don’t leave them... even if you won’t get proper response.. Your ego will be hurt frequently, while developing relationship with them, but you have to be mean... Remember they can change you... The only time I have faced problem, when the person is a female, in that case you will be projected like any criminal. Thanks fully I have less number of females in this category... J J J Approaching female person for friendship not always mean you had something different going on your mind. Till date I failed only once where I couldn't make it...

2.      People who want to impress you: Generally we couldn’t realize the importance of this category of people until & unless they go away from our life. I respect a lot al the person in my life belongs to this category & never let them go from my life. I always remember even a small thing done for me without my request to them.

3.      People who want you to be happy & even you want them to be happy with your work: you can call them your Best Friends, who come under this category. You should feel lucky even if you have few people in your life with this category. Remember you will not getting these type of people easily.

4.      People who don’t bother what you are: Nothing to say about this type of category. Be polite to them. These people decide your public etiquettes. It’s equally important that how you behave with these people even though you have no personal benefit with them.

5.      People who don’t like you ever & forever: Lolzzz.. Give a salute to them... Generally either you are not good person or they are jealous with your success, which is why they don’t like you. But if you already have a good number of people in the first 3 categories then these type of people defiantly jealous with you. These kinds of people are stubby & will never like you. They can’t change. I generally use “Gandhigiri” with this kind of people. This is the only trick which can change their mind set.

I have all the category of people with me & I am enjoying them a lot. Being born poor you have first start finding the 1^st category of people. Yes these will be the people who will act as stair for success. Remember they can change you never let them go. And if you are able to convert 1^st category of people into 2^nd & 3^rd... Then wow, nothing can be better than that.... If you have people with 2^nd category then nobody can stop you to be you are successful & fly high in this world. People in your life with 3^rd category will make sure the foundation of your success. I will not comment on 4^th category of people but for 5^th category of people... Most of them will demoralize you... Don’t even listen to them.... Be positive always... I will introduce each & every category of people who come in my life & my experience with them in my coming blogs....

My coming blogs may be released with the headings “My Initial Days...”, “Financial Help (Debt) from Relatives....”, “Foundation of New Journey....”, “Friends Club Barghat.....”, “Struggle for Higher Studies...”, “Swing Machine in Rs. 1...”, “My B.Sc. Days....”, “Making of MBA in Marketing & Finance....”, “My 1^st offer letter...”, ”My Dream Project....”, “No......... J”, “Vision, Mission & Objective...” etc.

I think I have written enough for the introduction of “BORN poor IS GOOD...:)”. I am busy in my current project, so cannot write frequently...  I am scheduling it for 28^th May 2011, 12:00 AM...

As like Chetan Bhagat, I would like to thanks MS-Word & Google Translate for the Grammar & Spelling checks. I would also request you to please forgive me for my English, its worst I must say...

Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J

regards,

rupesh