“Nazar Me Khwabo Ki Bizliya Leker Chal Rahe Ho... Too Zinda Ho Tum... J J J J”
Today is 14 September 2011, which is 47th birthday of my mummy; let me start this post from her only.
Thanks every one for reading & appreciating my previous posts... When I have started writing this blog one of the objective was to impress someone... & this time I got appreciation from her as well... which is motivational for me... But yes my next posts won’t have same objective.. Now I am writing for you all, who are reading my blog with interest... Motivating me... Giving me support for the task in which I am not expert indeed...
Today is 14 September 2011, which is 47th birthday of my mummy; let me start this post from her only.
Our family has seen lots of ups & down but all of them have been managed by my papa along with great support from my mummy. I have never seen my mummy regret that she married to a very poor family where her parents are very rich. She did never jealous with her sisters who married to quite rich families. She never felt unlucky. Despite her “Asthma” she continues her art classes for so many years; she is continuously working along with my papa for our future. She is the true dreamer who always dreams for something & achieved most of them. She is still dreaming & working hard to achieve it.
She taught us the importance of savings & how to save money for bad time. “Saving money is her art which we have learnt from her. The saving cycle start from a single Rupee coin, which she used to keep in her saving box & whenever she completed such 10 coins, she used to replace those coins by a 10 Rupee note & one cycle stops only when one 100 rupee note placed in her saving box.” It’s really very difficult for us to save 1 rupee coin & be passionate for other coins to join them till it become 100.
She is the person who never liked that her children should get any kind of sympathy from any one or ignored due to our poverty. From our childhood we got everything like any other children, who belongs to rich family. Most of the time she used to spent her savings on us only. “Once we have been to one of our relative’s place & I asked to drive their bicycle, which for any reason they have refused to give. She, who was looking at my nervous face, bought one bicycle for me within few days after that incident.... J J J J”
Thank you mummy for never let us feel like poor in front of others, always fulfil our basic needs, gave us everything more than expected & compromised your basic needs. I don’t think I can do anything for you in life which will be as equal as you did for us. I know how much you dreaming for us & still dreaming for us.
Love You Mummy... Happy Birthday to You... J J J J
It’s all about for year 1998... When my family was struggling to earn that much money which could at least fulfil our daily needs, but my parents did never give up, in whatever situations we were. They never stop “dreaming”. Dream was all about ensuring good education of their children, securing our future. They were not only dreaming but working hard to achieve it. They are having great will power. No matter in what situation we were those days but it was never reflects in our life style. I think most of the people who know us from years still won’t be able to believe that we have been gone through such kind of struggle.
Let’s talk about two dreamers, who are playing lead role in this script “BORN poor IS GOOD...:)”, my Mummy & Papa. My papa always taught us “Swawlambi Bano” (Be Independent). Don’t ask for help if it can be done by you. My mummy always emphasises on our “Dignity”. Don’t let yourself down in front of any one, which would create any kind of sympathy for you (Be Self Respected).
When my mummy papa was dreaming, I was thinking for a miracle or a lottery which can only make them successful. But actually I was challenging the true dreamers.... J J J When dreamers start working hard with strong will power then nothing can stop them to become successful. Either it’s “Asthma” of my mummy or “Back Bone” issue of my papa.
There are no restrictions on dreaming. Anyone can dream for anything. While my mummy papa dreaming which at that point was very difficult to achieve, few questions which always confused me from my childhood that – “Is it possible that everyone who dreams will be successful” If it is possible then why can’t other dreams like my mummy papa?”
Why can’t a labour who is watching lots of cars passing him while working on road, dream for one of them? Why can’t our maid, dream for her children education? Why can’t a waiter who is serving foods during a marriage function of a very rich family, dream for being one of guest? Why can’t a beggar who is sleeping on footpath, dream for a home? Few of them must be dreaming but sometimes few dreams seems unrealistic & people generally give up & leave it for situation, so whenever I saw my mummy papa dreaming, one doubt always disturbing me that if dreaming is all about success then most of the people I have mentioned would be successful as they are in this situation from so many years.
But soon I understood that there is something which differentiates people who don’t dream or just dreaming from dreamers with passion & strong willpower. Actually dreams are depends upon your expectations from life & where you currently stand. If your current position is as per your expectations then there is less possibilities that you dream. But how can we decide our exact expectations from our life? “I think our individual expectations from life differ in each stage of our life from childhood to elder. Secondly our social expectations from life depend upon external factors like our family, society we belong, kind of friends we have, people around us, & the growth rate of this world.” Like become a Sports Person can be your individual dream but dreaming for Olympic Gold Medal for your country must be influenced from your social expectations from life.
Dreams are self defined targets, which never let you sleep. Dreams are self motivational instruments, which always makes you stand again and again after your each fall. Dreams always give you something in end, if you have tried to achieve it, no matter you are successful to achieve it or not. Some time you became unsuccessful for your unachievable big dreams but in that case when you look back when you started & when you ended, you find you self successful in certain areas which you might not be thought for. “Some time you have to Dream for big to achieve small”.
Whenever my mummy used to tell, one day we will have this & that, but my question was “How?”.. And the answer is “there were two dreamers on work with great will power & hard work & they were my mummy papa”
They were not going to stop, they have started 4 different businesses one by one, and those were not that much big but all required lots of hard work.
But I was not taking interest in our business.. Everything has its own time.. I was just 14 year old.. It was my age for study, playing with friends, watches tv & enjoy life etc. My relatives were started talking about my interest on business, comparing me with other with same age who was giving full support to their family business by that time.
My papa never forced us to do anything without interest. “I cannot forget that he has installed portable black & white TV in our shop so that I should not be bored in shop when there is no customer. TV was something which was to create consistency of my attendance in the shop, so that I learn how to do business & very intelligent move indeed which made me visit our shop frequently.”
Throughout my childhood my parents never let us feel like poor. They fulfilled all our valid demands whenever required like our good quality study material or good cloths or any toy. When I started visiting our shop I realized that our life is not that easy as I was enjoying, I have to be serious about our future. “According to me if you will start new business you will start from “Zero”, but we were in “-10” at that point.” Our business was totally running on debts with very high rate, which was very difficult for us to repay on time.
But my parents were not going to stop, decided to boost up our “Swing Machine” business, which actually required few thousands rupees. They have decided to mortgage some of mummy’s gold jewelleries.... They actually didn’t want any kind of favour from any one...
When my mummy went to my maternal uncles for mortgaging jewellery to them something unexpected happened. The whole atmosphere was changed to very emotional filmy scene. Actually neither my father nor my mother was in a favour to take any financial help from any one, which is why the decision of mortgaging has been taken.
But when it comes to emotional attachment of brother & sister you can’t help. Every one present there became emotional. Urgently my father has been called with all the record from our shop. Situation has been analysed by my maternal uncles & total amount has been calculated which will be required to at least make us debt free from the market. The amount if I remember correctly was around Rs. 1 lac 20 thousand. The same amount has been provided by my maternal uncles & my parents have taken money only after my maternal uncles promised that they will accept the money when we will repay it to them. This development helped us to reach “Zero” when we were in “-10”.... J J J J Recently we have paid whole amount to them.
Now we had to start from Zero. It was not an easy task indeed. My maternal uncles have decided to provide goods for our shop on reasonable price until we stabilize so we started purchasing the goods from them as other wholesaler were charging us 10 to 20% extra from normal market price. One of the best move I must say, at least we could match our retail price with other retailer in the market.
Everything was fine at that point of time for me, when this development was happening I was very happy & excited. But I didn’t realize that this will make us dependent on others. We won’t be able to take decision on our own for expanding business, taking risk etc. Actually that development was taking away independence of our family. We were going to be dependent on our every move. We have to satisfy others before taking any decision.
I started showing interest on our business after this development which increases some hope for our family, especially to me. I started experimenting various ways to increase the sales. I have started selling some seasonable items in footpath in front of our shop especially in the weekly market days. I start enjoying our business. My involvement has been increased drastically in our business from year 1998 to 2001.
My involvement in our business was in peak those days, but what about my studies? I have never skipped schools for our shop & thanks to my parent who take care of this. One clear instruction was given to me from the “No shop when it comes to studies”. I think from class 9th I started giving good results by marks which was average but at least better than before.
By the year 2001 we started realizing that we are not independent, we were not allowed to take any decisions independently because we were dependent. Few incidents happened when I felt that there is no freedom for me to do business in whatever way I wanted to do. My parents always wanted me to concentrate on studies & search for any other career through studies.
But I have to go for both study & searching for other source of income in which I can do whatever I wanted to do..... But my parents were not agreed with the concept... For them first priority was study & if I have time other than my studies then no other drama of earning money other than our shop.. L L L
But I am their son, who has learnt dreaming from them only... So let’s check out for my next post for how I earned my first money independently apart from my family business & given it to my mummy...
Following lines from Movie “Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara” will be best to end this post & provide some essence of my next post...
“Dilo Me Tum Apani Betabiya Lekar Chal Rahe Ho... Too Zinda Ho Tum....” J J J J
Thanks a lot for reading... Take care & all the best...Hope you all not bored while reading that J
regards,
rupesh
